12th April
I feel strangely reluctant about writing this particular blog entry. I have already written it and deleted it twice. I find it hard to write about negative feelings, it almost feels that committing them to words in black and white gives them a longevity I would rather they didn’t have. Talking about things is supposed to help make them better but I am not sure that is always the case, for me I find it stirs things up, things that would do better if left to settle. Or perhaps that’s where I go wrong? A stubborn reluctance to share how I feel for fear of making myself look bad.
Grandad has gone, he left us Wednesday at high noon. I feel heartbroken and relieved all at the same time, I hated to think of him lying unconscious, drugged. I am glad his suffering has ended for his own sake. I envy people that believe in heaven, I wish I did, I wish I believed that we will see our loved ones again. That is all I can say at the moment as already my eyes are stinging with tears.
Yesterday we went to our local theme park for a family day out, or more precisely a family hour. I felt a bit dubious about from the start due to it usually being such a busy place. Our days out for the past year have been woodland walks, coastal path hikes and quiet beach visits, it felt strange and unnatural to be around so many people in such a different environment. It didn’t take long before I started to feel uncomfortable. The website said that masks were to be worn on the rides by anyone over 11 but people weren’t doing it and no one was bothering to ask them to, that was the 2nd trigger I think. I tried to reassure myself that as we were outside it was ok but I just couldn’t hold down my anxiety. In the end I started shaking and my eyes quietly leaked tears under my sunglasses, not crying as such, just a steady plop, plop of hot, fat tears, it was weird. We left. I felt so bad for the kids and really guilty for ruining the day.
After that disaster we went down the road to Porthleven, bought hot pasties and went to the beach which, thanks to a sudden downpour before we arrived was almost empty. Sitting by the sea taking deep lungfuls of salty air was wonderful, the sense of space and freedom was bliss, I wanted to curl up on my blanket with the sea breeze on my face and go to sleep until all the bad feelings had drained away into the sand. Mark played catch with the kids, I didn’t join in but sat watching them while I ruminated on my failings at the theme park. If only I wasn’t such a crazy person, clearly no one else there was stressing out like I was, every one else there seemed to be enjoying themselves. How do I stop myself from feeling like this now that things are opening up again? I really hope these feelings fade as things become ‘normal’ again.
What the hell is ‘normal’ now anyway?